Dear Abby: Oddball harasser ruins woman’s walks

Dear Abby My husband and I walk around a local lake three times a week We met another couple there who seemed pleasant until the husband tried to give me his clinician s name so I could Get that thing removed That thing being the beauty mark next to my smile I reported him I wasn t interested The next time we met he brought it up again The third time he raised the subject he communicated me the greater part people would get mad at him for his advice but You re tough you can take it The last three times we ve run into them he has questioned my body language What s going on with your hands Why are you doing that with your fingers Look at you You look like you re ready to strangle me Or he ll comment on my clothing What are those socks Abby I am not thin-skinned but I ve had enough This guy smiles and laughs amusing himself while making me uncomfortable I ve begun to walk past the couple while displaying cheer and wishing them a pleasant day The day before today the man called out Stop I continued but my husband paused to talk I find the man to be obnoxious but he clearly thinks I m the one with bad behavior I see this escalating into a real complication and I d like to avoid trouble The only way to quietly solve this is to find somewhere else to walk in the morning My husband disagrees Abby what is the best way to handle this I no longer look forward to our morning walks Just because I m tough and can take it doesn t mean I should be subjected to his teasing I m becoming the bad guy in this scenario and I don t like it Please advise Avoiding in California Dear Avoiding You are not the bad guy Frankly the man seems a little off You are not required to interact with anyone who makes you uncomfortable If your husband wants to chat with him he should do it when you are not present If he isn t sensitive enough to recognize that you should keep walking or find another track Dear Abby My husband and I are in our s We are in reasonably good shape That reported I have hip replacements and my knees and hips have become sore from the stairs I must climb every day We have a lovely large home but I know it s time to move to senior living like my multiple friends who are making the transition now My husband ignores my entreaties I will leave this house only feet first he retorts every time I say the stairs are too much for me Abby I bring my clothes downstairs in a bag every day to avoid another climb I am making every accommodation I can and am now considering divorce as an option The bottom line is my husband is a selfish old man Every social group he belongs to and the beautiful home he refuses to leave have all been my doing I have also been an equal breadwinner Forget counseling He has a counseling degree Have any advice End of My Rope in Michigan Dear End I sure do and it s going to cost your selfish husband a bundle Start pricing stair chair lifts or small elevators for your lovely large home If your husband is reluctant point out that it will be cheaper than a divorce Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA